Following the recent cheating rumors of Jada pinkett smith (Will Smith's wife), she addressed the issue and made some very interesting submissions that got me thinking. In a recent interview, Jada talks about second chances when it comes to infidelity and relationships. See her statement below
"my observation has been that when most people cheat, they are trying to solve some kind of emotional trouble or confusion that they believe cheating would relieve. What's interesting is that the cheating has nothing to do with you.
"Now the question becomes are you willing to put all ego aside and reach for some deep compassion to try and figure out what the trouble is and as partners try to solve it"
Personally, i could be a very 'skoinskoin' persin when it comes to men - my principle is, i don't give shit neither do i take shit. If i catch you, na to carry ya load waka kia kia or chop 'stick' for head. But honestly, her submission actually made me see things from another angle. I feel if its someone you truly and genuinely love, why not? She again stated something i really love and can relate to, which is
"when your partner cheats on you, he/she not only hurts you, but also themselves"
I feel this is very right. Not that i condole or support anything that glorifies infidelity but as i said, if you truly and genuine love each other, there should be a second chance (maybe never a third). I mean, we saw the crazy Nene Leaks get re-married to her ex-husband over the weekend (her picture below)
and from personal experience, couples that have fought through infidelity actually come out stronger (if they make it through) because its sort of like a healing and reflecting process for them. I know the younger minds might not agree with this but i think there are some certain knowledge you acquire in life only with age and this happens to be one of them. It takes a really matured mind to see things from this perspective and i totally agree with her.
So, i wanna have your sincere opinion on second chances and infidelity? Have you had experiences in the past? Please do share.
Warning - for guys who might want to take this as a hall-pass to committing the act, remember its the rainy season and thunda dey everywhere o. Besides, my oga knows i just got one correct 'omorogun'. Henhen. Lol!
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Love,
SolaDunn.
If there is genuine luv one shld be able to 4give n 4get.Bt d question is can our African(Nigeria)forgive n forget
ReplyDeletelets say d guys too shud b able to forgive and forget wen deir gurls cheat on dem,cos we are both human wit feeling.shikena
ReplyDeleteall what she says is true,if anyone had told me i would forgive a guy for cheating i wont bliv,my immediate ex got d boots just becos he received a call from anoda girl while i was der bt fast forward 2yrs n i forgive my fiance for not only cheating but having a child by her.hmmmmmm only genuine love.n yes i bliv the infidelity hurt him more dan it did me.he was disgraced,he was humbled,he cried,knelt down n beg.men need to learn a lot bout self control i tell u.
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